Been going for 71 years so far and still going strong

Over the years many people have asked me to write an account of my life and times – a plea that up till now I have ignored. But as it is raining this afternoon, I thought “what the hell” and have sat down in front of my computer to see what I can make of it all.

This wont be an any real sense a “narrative” autobiography, more a series of impressions, events and sketches of events arranged in more or less chronological order of my life so far (I am now 71 years old).

Up to now it has been a very varied, enjoyable and for me at least, entertaining life for the most part. So far I have managed to live in something like 11 different countries and had a pretty wide range of professions, all (well most of them) totally enjoyable and I continue to find life both fun and an interesting challenge. And plan to stay as long as I can to see what comes next.

The beginning in Britain:

So I shall begin at the beginning, seems a good place to start.

For me this was on 28th June 1942 in a hospital in North London during an air-raid. Many years later my mother told me that as I was being born, young German pilots were dropping bombs all around us in an endeavour to bring my life to a stop before it had begun – Happily they failed in this simple aim.

My mother (on the right), her sister Liz and a Sailor called Joe (apparently) Being romantic in the middle of a war.

To make it even more memorable for my mother, she tells me that on the floor below her room, a large number of religious people were conducting a very noisy and fervent prayer meeting. So killers above, singers below, and generally a noisy affair – A good start to a life I feel, and one that probably was more formative than she realised at the time.

Lorraine and Gerry Striding out in war time London.  Gerry was my real father.

Obviously my memories of my first few years are vague, more a series of impressionistic pictures and sounds. Why is it that we can never remember things from the first 5 or 6 years of our lives? Always struck me as rather odd that – probably the most dramatic period in most lives, and we can't recall a damn thing about it. Lousy arrangement I have always felt.


For me the most powerful part of this impressionistic period consists of a feeling of anxiety whenever I hear that particular type of siren that was used by the British to warn of air raids. Even now at the good age of 71 I still have this whenever I hear that particular wailing sound. A feeling of discomfort and a strange feeling of fear of I know not what. Odd but powerful.

The only other thing I can bring to mind of my first few years is a sort of overwhelming greyness and women in dark coloured bundled-up clothing and large dark hats. I suppose fashions then were somewhat depressing, but I seem only to remember the worst of them. And a general sensation of dreariness and poverty. Not a good set of memories.


I gather that shortly after I had been born, a V1 rocket landed just outside the house we were living in in London, and the drawer (yup, drawer in a chest of drawers, a normal place for small babies to sleep in then as one was protected from flying glass and falling debris in there) was shot out and across the room with me sound asleep in it. I always was a sound sleeper, something I shall return to later in this saga.

So I survived the war unscathed and went on to start growing up as one does.

The only other memory of the period before we went to Australia that I can recall is the snail races that we held in the nursery school I went to. We each collected and brought snails to school for this purpose, and the idea was that all our snails were lined up at one end of the classroom, and whoever's snail got to the other end first was the winner. Of course most of the snails didn't co-operate and wandered all over the place but not to the end point of the race. Silly, but fun.


By this point my mother and father had divorced (no idea why) and my mother had married a splendid Australian soldier who had been based in England preparatory to the invasion of France (Plastic surgery for wounded soldiers and airmen being his thing). This man, Russell Cole was the man I regarded as my father, and loved him deeply, a strong and very likeable man, if given to silences – He was a dentist by the way.

Comments

  1. Hi ....I tried adding a comment, but somehow it got lost, and now I have to repeat....

    Great start Tony, truly fascinating even to me who knows you so well!!

    Wouldn't it be good to create Life Story spiderweb and link to family members' and friends' stories? Would it be possible? A bit like a virtual attic, with treasure chests of memories of family members and friends!

    Also please remember to send the link to those people who aren't on FB, like Brenda and Ivo. Even print out the occasional hard copy and send to people like Vangie and Elsie.

    Lots of love
    Lotty from Incheon Airport, Korea.

    Dying to see which photos you attach!

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  2. Some good thoughts there Lotty, Worth considering..... Glad you like it so far too

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  3. Yes, a few photos would be great.

    Great stuff Tony, thanks.

    Born under a bombing, must be formative as you say, sleeping in a chest of drawers - I've heard of this before, I'm guessing it was one of those solid oak type jobs, and as you say, probably saved your life - brilliant.

    Would like to have met Russell.

    To Lotty's other point, I'm sure there's an online resource for spider charts etc but couldn't immediately find one. I wonder whether the old fashioned way would be a good place to start, notes stuck on a wall in a chronological x/vs family/friend tree style order? Bit like a big crime investigation...

    Keep it coming.

    Thanks again, hope all are well and love to all

    Barney x

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  4. Glad you approve Barney. It was you that actually pulled me over the start line to do this, so if you had hated it or found it dull, I would have been sitting here with no end of egg on my face.

    I hope to start looking for photos this evening, and will add them to the appropriate post when I find them... So it would be worth coming back to see if any photos have been added as time and a half goes by.

    As regards other people adding their life story to this one in some way, should be possible to set up a blog that could handle that too. If there is interest in that I shall look into what might be possible.

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  5. Oh and yes, Russ was one hell of a guy..... And he always treated me as if I was his son, I never got the feeling that I was of lesser value to him than my half brother and sisters (not that we ever thought of each other in that way - which is another testimonial on Russ's essential goodness). And on top of that he was simply a hell of a good and friendly guy to be with... Loved him.

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